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You did? You know how to play?
Published on September 5, 2007 By CharlesCS In Current Events
There was a discussion a while back about how schools keep taking away games and stuff kids have been known to play for many years because of a few complaints (cry babies if you ask me). Most recently the elimination of the game of tag from a school in Colorado.

In the discussion someone mentioned how now a day any kids can join a sports team, unlike before only those who could play the game made the team. I don’t know, it makes sense to me. If you can’t play baseball, why let you on the team? Isn’t that what they do in the big leagues of all sports? I guess eventually someone came up with this idea that not allowing those children who don’t know how to play was bad for these children, a put down, as if telling the kids they are no good. Well, it was the truth, they were no good, but I guess telling the truth is a bad thing as well.

Well, just yesterday I became witness of just this kind of “any kid can play” action. My son recently joined a soccer team. He had never played the game before, except maybe you every now and then kicking of a ball outside with his friends. I figured he could try out and se if he’s any good. Turns out he is not that bad, with some work and techniques he can be a pretty good player. Interesting enough I had not realized that I had paid for him joining before he even tried out, meaning that he was in no matter how bad he was. Then after him being assigned to a team I realized that the coaches were evaluating the players not only to see who was good, but to see who sucked and therefore balance out the teams with a few good players and a few not so good players. My son’s team has one kid, around 7 or 8 years old, who can’t kick the ball if his life depended on it. I’ve seen 4 year olds kick better than this kid. He lacks motivation, interest and skills; he acts like a small child and gets distracted very easily. What is even funnier is that his parents are Hispanics and big fans of soccer. I’m sure the father is looking for his son to follow in his footsteps in learning a tradition game played by most Hispanic cultures. But either this kid is a late bloomer or he just doesn’t have it. He seems more like a slow kid to me, a child who does not act his age. I came to this conclusion when the peewee league was practicing just besides us and the boy pretty much acted the same way those kids did. The coach had a hard time keeping them kids within their practice area and they seemed to be having more fun than any of the other teams practicing. The boy seemed to pay more attention to the peewee league than to his own. Most of the other kids, including the 2 girls on the team, are pretty good players, a couple are actually very good.

One thing I noticed yesterday was after practice one of the coaches spoke to my sons coach about how they had made some chances on the teams. My son’s team acquired a new player, a really good one and we had lost a girl. We had 3 before. Apparently they did not balance out the teams properly.

Well, I don’t know whether to be OK with all of this or feel upset over the idea of having so many kids who can’t play soccer at all. I saw some from other teams and there were quit a few just like that one boy in my son’s team. I like the idea of giving a child a chance to learn the sport, after all how else will one know if they can play or not, but how do you keep the rest of the kids from blaming the one kid on the team who just can’t play for their loses if they lose? I’m sure some here will say to teach them not to be mean and stuff, easier said than done. I seriously doubt all kids will be respectful, well educated and nice even if all the parents tried. Kids will be kids.

Well, I hope all goes well and I hope the kid improves. I don’t see it happening, but then you never know. Miracles can happen.

Comments
on Sep 05, 2007
He will only improve as much as his motivation and interest allows. I think there should be mid-year cuts allowed. If a kid is not motivated or interested in learning, he can get booted halfway through the season. Coaches are not babysitters. Get half your money back when you turn in the jersey. Some kids just don't want to play sports. Stop making them.

Note, I don't want kids who are trying to improve but are just terrible to get cut, at least not halfway through the season.
on Sep 05, 2007
If anyone has a link to the article where this was mentioned, please feel free to post it. I can't remember where i saw it.
on Sep 05, 2007
I know what you mean. I never played sports as a child, first because the doctors would not approve it because of my asthma and then when I was a teen and with hardly any asthma problems I just wasn't interested in sports. I didn't hink I had what it took to play so I didn't.

I feel bad that some kids are forced to play by parents who are fanatics of these sports and refuse to have a child who does not share it. I mean all you have to do is go to the field and look at most of the Hispanic kids wearing soccer uniforms from International soccer teams like from Mexico, Italy, Honduras, etc. Most can play good but some just don't have it. And then the team has to suffer for having a weak spot and the coaches are left to figure out how to keep the kids from jumping the kid.
on Sep 05, 2007
Like I said, if a kid is willing to learn the sport, he'll get decent enough that he probably won't hurt the team. For soccer, half the sport is being able to run. A lot. If a kid is working on his running, and works on his other skills, he'll eventually improve enough with the kicking to at least not hurt the team. But if you find a kid not working on anything, it's probably because he doesn't want to play. That's the kid I think hurts the team, because you get all the whining and complaining without the enthusiasm that makes the game fun.
on Sep 05, 2007
I think that for little kids (Pee Wee level) that it is a great idea to have teams where anyone can play. Teach the kids to be good sports, learn the basics, learn to lose even. So they get a fat kid who can't run fast, who cares? They will have to learn that sometimes you are thrown in with people that are not motivated or talented. Suck it up and learn.

That being said....as kids get older, I think it's great to have "traveling teams" or competitive levels so that those with the talent and desire can excel. So in Middle School or High School, the slow kids get cut from football etc. That's fine, great even. Kids need to understand that they can't do everything.

I was on the swim team in high school. I sucked. I sucked the 2nd year too. But the 3rd year, I found my niche. I learned Butterfly and while I never came in 1st, I was consistantly 2nd or 3rd. If they cut me the 1st year, I would have been unable to 1-help the team and 2-develop a lifelong love of swimming...and other active sports.

So unless it's a competitive level where you HAVE to cut a person, I say give them a chance. Let them practice and play 2nd string. They may never make it a professional career, but give them a chance and let them have an outlet to work on skills. Not everyone is naturally talented and some of us need more time..
on Sep 05, 2007
I agree with Lifehappens.  Early years are to teach sportsmanship and allow skills to develop.  Later years are for competition and trying out. I think it was Locamama (or maybe Tova) that said Middle school was the time to start competition.  I think that is a good age.  Generally that is 11 or 12.
on Sep 05, 2007
School teams should always have cuts. But there should be recreational leagues available that anyone can play on. Also, keep younger kids off the roster but practicing with the team, so they're used to hitting older kid's pitching, or going up against taller, stronger guys. That way, when they're the tall, strong guy, they'll be the better tall, strong guy for it.
on Sep 05, 2007
I think that for little kids (Pee Wee level) that it is a great idea to have teams where anyone can play. Teach the kids to be good sports, learn the basics, learn to lose even. So they get a fat kid who can't run fast, who cares? They will have to learn that sometimes you are thrown in with people that are not motivated or talented. Suck it up and learn.

That being said....as kids get older, I think it's great to have "traveling teams" or competitive levels so that those with the talent and desire can excel. So in Middle School or High School, the slow kids get cut from football etc. That's fine, great even. Kids need to understand that they can't do everything.


I love the idea. My son is in a Jr team and while this is mostly all for fun and games, since they will basically play against each other and not teams from other towns and stuff, I still think those who just don't want to or can't should not slow down the whole game. But that's just me. I often wonder why would a parent keep a child who is obviously lacking the skills to play knowing the others will make fun of him/her. It's one thing to try and show signs of learning like my son is, but that one kid on his team just doesn't have it. He is just not either motivated enough or just plain too slow to understand and learn the game.
on Sep 05, 2007
I have enough coordination that I can play sports to a point. That is, I can play softball well but I couldn't hit a fastball since I was 14. I can play volleyball quite well in rec leagues, where there isn't much hitting. I can play basketball, but only because I'm tall. I can kick a ball pretty accurately, so I can do football or soccer. But I'm not great like some guys are. Ball handling is not my strong point, hence I stick mostly to baseball(catch and throw) and volleyball (just hit the thing, no handling)

But I would play anything recreationally, if I knew of a pickup game.
on Sep 05, 2007
I think there was going to be a point to all that, that had to do with the actual topic, but I can't remember what it was. Sorry!
on Sep 05, 2007
I suck at basketball, I score 1 shot after about 25 attempts, I like football because of the strategy involved so I can be a pretty good runner, I'm not much of a hitter or catcher with a a glove so baseball is out of the question. I might be able to play soccer since I seem to have some skills, I just need to lose weight, get in shape so that I don't lose my breath after running 12 yards.
on Sep 05, 2007
I'm with you on the lose weight and get in shape, except I'm not 30 yet so I have a chance.

Let's get together sometime and play soccer.
on Sep 05, 2007
Let's get together sometime and play soccer.


Not a bad idea, how hard can it really be?
on Sep 05, 2007
Well, that depends. If we get in shape now, I will get in shape faster and beat you. If we don't get in shape, then we will both fall down before we even get a chance to kick the ball.

Well, perhaps a bit of hyperbole...