The World Thru My Eyes - I speak my mind and man does it like to talk.

So my 10 year old son went on a school trip today to Tampa. He will be visiting the Kennedy Space Center, watching a movie in 3D, eating at a nice buffet restarurant and then going to Busch Gardens, all on a 3 day trip. The original trip was for Washington, but this was cancelled due to there not being enough kids and they did not raise enough money for the trip (the economy had a lot to do with this). So, the school decided to take the kids to a local trip instead. After all, theyw roked really hard to collect what they had already collected and they did not want the money to go to waste.

Now here I am at work, nervous, scared and mssing my boy. With so many stories on the news, I can't help but feeling this way. Not to mention my son has never been away from us besides staying at his counsins house. But they are family and I trust them and they lived close by. This time he is far, with his friends and a few teachers. I can only hope I have done a good job at making sure he can handle himself on his own for a few days. This is a good experience for him, he will learn a lot and have tons of fun, but as a father I worry because it's what I'm suppose to do. It's things like this that make me wonder how any parent (mother or father) can have so little care for their kids. How, for example, my sister-in-laws ex-husband has barely ever seen his son and made very few attempts at having a relationship with him. My brother, who is separated for his kids mom does what he can to see them, and he does a great job at hiding his emotions but I don't know how he deals with it considering they live in defferent Sates. I suffer just thinking about the idea of me not being in the same house as my kids, let alone the same State.

I love my kids and some day they will have to leave the nest. I can only hope I am good enough of a father that will make them want to come see me as often as possible. I don't have that kind of relationship with my father, and I can't figure out (regardless if he is crazy or not) why he aloud our relationship to crumble in this manner.

May God watch over my son and his friends. May they enjoy their parent-free time. I can't wait till Friday night when he comes back. I look forward to holding him in my arms and hugging him. And I am sure his little brother will be missing him too. He, too, will eventually leave when he's old enough. Oh Lord, to think I will have to go thru this again.


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on Apr 29, 2009

We raised four boys and not one of them went away like this for a school trip especially at that young age.  I'm surprised they're doing this especially for so long for 10 year olds. 

Our boys did boy scout jamborees  and camp outs but the Dads went along as well. 

I was pretty protective of my kids.  The only way they would have gone to something like this is if I went to chaperone and I did alot of chaperoning.   There's no way I would have allowed my kids to go off with people I didn't know that well even in High School.  The only time that I can recall they went on any overnight with a school function is for their Senior Trip the day before they graduated and they managed to do quite well in the world regardless. 

You should be listening to your instincts.  I'm sure he'll be fine physically......but just remember it's not just the physical well being that is at stake here.  It's also the emotional and spiritual as well. 

 

 

 

on Apr 29, 2009

Congrats to your son on earning such a cool trip.

My son went on a school camping trip back in Hawaii and it was rough worrying about him but he had a great time. 

 

KFC, I am confused...I thought you had 3 boys?  I have seen you say a couple times that you raised 4 boys.

on Apr 29, 2009

I have a stepson from my husband's first marriage.  He was married very young and divorced by 25 when his son was about 3.  We got married before he started Kindergarten.  While we didn't have him fulltime he was with us quite a bit especially before he hit H.S. when we saw him less and less.  He is about five years older than my eldest.  His mother remarried and had another two boys the same time as I was having mine.  So this only child ended up with five brothers in a very short time.

Can you see why I'm waiting for that first girl baby?    So far, only my son has had children (with another on the way) hopefully a girl. 

 

on Apr 29, 2009

You should be listening to your instincts. I'm sure he'll be fine physically......but just remember it's not just the physical well being that is at stake here. It's also the emotional and spiritual as well.

I hear ya, I didn't go on my first away trip till I was about 16. This was not easy for me, but I wanted to give him a chance to explorer and I wanted to give the school a chance to prove themselves as well. I know our kids should not be the tools for such things but they have to learn sooner or later.

What really has me uncomfortable was when we got to the school this morning we were basically greated to an accident just as we got out of the car. A school employee was parked in the turning lane in the middle of the street since the school gates were not open that early in the morning and some young guy hit his vehicle at 40 MPH just as we got out of our car. He was OK but in pain on his back and the young guy was OK but calm. He didn't do much to help but did not try to leave of deny anything. Imagine I how I felt after that.

Congrats to your son on earning such a cool trip.

My son went on a school camping trip back in Hawaii and it was rough worrying about him but he had a great time.

Thanks. I'm sure he'll have loads of fun. I just hope he learned something from me.

on Apr 29, 2009

Oh I see.  Sorry to be nosy. 

Boys, boys, boys.  WOW.  I'm actually quite surprised that I had 2 girls!  I thought for sure I'd be a mom of boys forever.

Congrats on the pending grandchild.  Don't buy any girl stuff!  You'll jinx it and end up with another boy!

on Apr 29, 2009

I think it's good that you're nervous.  That's a good fatherly instinct.

on Apr 29, 2009

Boys, boys, boys. WOW. I'm actually quite surprised that I had 2 girls! I thought for sure I'd be a mom of boys forever.

yes, and I also have two brothers (no sisters).  One brother had just one child....a boy ...another boy!!!!  The other brother had one of each.  So Michelle is the only girl and I never get to see her since she lives out of state and I'm not close to that brother anymore. 

On my husband's side, all of his brothers so far have had only boys.  None of his brothers had a girl and they're all done (about our ages).

So now we're waiting for this next generation which includes my boys and their boy cousins.  So far only my son has had children.  And you know........he had two boys! 

So yes.....boys, boys, boys.   And don't worry I look at the baby girl's clothes.....but I don't touch! 

 

on Apr 29, 2009

We don't have a lot of girls in my family.  I am the only granddaughter on either side.  On my mom's side, my cousins both have sons.  My brother doesn't have any children yet.  I have more kids than my cousins do combined, haha.

I can't imagine how spoiled that new baby will be, but especially if she's a girl!!

on Apr 29, 2009

I got 2 boys, would love a girl but financial situations stop me from making it happen.

on Apr 29, 2009

I got 2 boys, would love a girl but financial situations stop me from making it happen.

I thought like that and is one reason for stopping at three.  On some days, I regret that decision.  If I were to do it again....five sounds good.  The problem with me was I was tired and made a quick decision at 25 after a miscarriage that I was done.  I had three sons and a stepson by the age of 24  with another on the way on my 25th birthday.  I was not a happy camper. 

I can't imagine how spoiled that new baby will be, but especially if she's a girl!!

ya, most likely.  Not good probably but still plan on doing it..... 

We've got a while to find out.  So when I find out......I'll let everyone and their brother know.....especially if it's a girl.  Then I'm going shopping!